33: The Art of Swinging Part 3.
When we meet others, we based our personalities and interaction with them, to determine how good a connection we will have. I will touch on a few general basics that are common among first time connection. These are only a few ideas that we think newbies or green swingers should consider.
First we should get our mind focus on us and what we desire out of the lifestyle, if you are with a partner sit down and converse about likes and dislike before you go out to meet others. What is allowed for this night and how far you will potentially go if the mood is right or you do meet that perfect match. Write these down and get it in your head. Some swingers use safe words or gestures between each to get out of a situation or to get into, just depends. Your partner is your ‘wing man’ and you are the same for them, don’t leave them hanging. Be aware of where their comfort level. Since you want the experience to be one that you both enjoy weather that means you both are playing or just one. Make your rules for the night and stick to them to make sure things go the way you want. You are in charge even though you can still be spontaneous and flexible since your rules may change later or end up not having any in the future.
The first impression counts not only for them but for you. Dress the way you would like someone to dress if you are attracted to them. I mean, don’t go out in a T-shirt of holes smelling like shit and expect someone to come up and converse with you or continue too, if you started the conversation.
Now it depends on what kind of event you attend that will decide your attire. To simplify things, we will talk about meet and greets that has a potential to go further.
At this point your rules are set and so is your expectations; not tooo high though, keep in mind not to be surprise if you don’t find what you think would be out there.
Most have a big expectation for a golden unicorn, for that special threesome, since the lady half want to please her man and try new things while the man want to live out every man fantasy, to have 2 women at once. The best thing to do is to keep an open mind and try to converse with as many people that you encounter. Laugh, make jokes and get cozy in an environment that is unlike your daily life. From here you can see the possibilities and better judge in which direction you should take your newly discovered lifestyle.