Having been in the lifestyle for several years, we have made a few friends that are swingers, who we interact with
outside of the lifestyle. This is usually a good thing because we like to have friends that we can talk to about
our encounters as well as everyday experiences. Friends that share the same interests and hobbies are especially
valuable to us; however we have recently run into an unexpected issue with friends that cross from the swinger
world into the vanilla one. The issue is discretion.
We have lately discovered that some people are not as discreet about their extracurricular activities as we are. I understand people being open about their relationship with their friends and family and have no problem with anyone telling others about what they do. My issue is with them telling others what I do. I personally find it a little awkward to show up at a family bbq just to be approached by a vanilla stranger who has knowledge of my after hours activities.
My point, for anyone that ends up in a similar situation, is to make sure you know where your lifestyle friends
stand on discretion as well as let them know how you feel about them spreading the word for you.
The fact that you are all open-minded should keep the situation from becoming uncomfortable.